Keeping Goals Private in A Social Age
In this age of Social Media, we share everything online. From funny videos of our pets to every moment of our childrens’ lives to memes. If we would show someone else something, we post it on social media.
To an extent, this is great! It allows people that might not stay connected to maintain a relationship using Social Media. It allows people to stay up-to-date with family and friends without having to talk to each person.
Of course, it’s a double-edged sword. Things like FOMO get introduced and Social Media becomes extremely toxic.
However, that’s not the point of this post. I want to specifically talk about how goals and social media co-exist, and whether or not they should.
I think without a doubt the biggest offender here is weightloss/health goals. We tell everyone that we’re gonna change, barely get into how, and then start posting updates about it across Social Media.
This can be really helpful, since your friends and family can help hold you accoutable to attain whatever your goal is.
However, since when do we need to post everytime we shed a pound on the scale or visit the gym?
I’ve also heard a lot about how these updates on peoples’ health/fitness can be helpful to others; seeing someone else at the gym may lend itself reason enough for you to hit the iron as well.
This is all well and good, but I also see an unhealthy side to having your goals be so public.
Social Media can make it so hard to stop that you go too far and end up cracking
I truly believe that having some accountibility with your goals is very helpful. Having someone else that can help make sure you’re taking the right steps towards your goals has been noted for years.
However, this is typically one person. Not thousands of accountibility partners on Social Media.
You may think the more the merrier, but I think, at least for me, it will be better to not even mention what I’m working on via Social Media.
I used to make YouTube videos, post things on Instagram, and Tweet about things I was up to. Goals, ambitions, weightloss journey, diet changes, whatever it may be.
While I still hold value in sharing things about self-growth and self-improvement (I mean look at my Medium page and try to argue with that), I don’t think the constant updates is the right approach.
I experiment a lot with small changes in my life to make myself happier, more productive, and generally better off. If I kept my Instagram Stories updated with these small changes, I would never have an empty story, and it would follow no actual path.
So, recently, along with using Social Media in a less views-oriented way, I haven’t been posting about self-improvement regularly. And I partially think it has helped already.
Although it’s only been a few weeks, I think I have actually held myself more accountable and been able to really just focus in on my self-improvement instead of looking for opportunities to talk about it on Social Media. I have a few people that regularly check-in and make sure I’m on the right track, and we talk about why shortcomings happen when they come along.
It’s been really nice to step away from Social Media for at least one aspect of my life, especially since most of my life is on Social Media given the career path I’m on.
I would highly encourage people to at least give a try to not letting the entire world know about every small improvement. Not that it can’t help to share on Social Media, but maybe it’s not the best approach after all.