Failure is Beautiful — from a Misfit
There’s a chance that my stories could actually be a part of the world. There’s a hope that my beauty will resonate as a female misfit. In June of 2016, Lidia Yuknavitch took the TED stage and stood up for those who “missed fitting in”. While she identified herself as a member of the unique misfit club, she still found her way to her dream of New York City, where all the writers are.
Lidia was not abashed to mention how in awe she was to stand in a room of professional writers while sheepishly taking a linen cloth or causally shoving a menu down her pants. These were keepsakes for the woman who’s parents never went to college. She couldn’t believe that she was living her dream.
While walking away from fancy restaurants with small mementos was a seemingly bold act, it was not long after that the feeling of shame crept in her mind. A woman approached Lidia at an event and offered her career representation on the spot. Instead of jumping at the opportunity, Lidia vocalized her need to think about the offer to the extent that the woman walked away.
Memories were the only items that Lidia brought back to her home state of Oregon but it was the “failure” that signaled her to move her career to the next level. She went on with her life and achieved in new areas. She became a teacher and a mother. Lidia even went on the write a memoir about how she “reinvented herself from the ruins of her choices”. She believed that her failures were the strange portals to something beautiful as long as she gave voice to those stories.
Even at the moment of your failure you are beautiful and you have the chance to reinvent yourself endlessly. That is the misfit’s myth and there is never only one of us in the room.