Advice for My 20yr Old Self

Here are some of the answers I sent to the NY Times after they posed the question — what advice would you give to your 20yr old self?

  • Refrain from the natural tendency and desire to “chase” money. Money is like a shadow, if you are smart, successful and hardworking, it’ll follow you around. Focus on acquiring the right skills and experiences in order to become successful.
  • Life isn’t a popularity contest. In our digitally connected world, it’s so easily to become addicted to the thrill and excitment of accumulating “likes” on social media. However, the temporary spike in dopamine due to external recognition and instant gratification is neither heartfelt nor rewarding. Don’t get caught up in the shallowness of posting things for the sake of recognition, do it because you want to share cool shit and talk about things you’re passionate about.
  • Don’t waste the weekends partying, it’s overrated and an anchor to personal growth and development. Use the weekends as a time to reflect, clean the mind, meditate, evaluate and set new goals. Use it as a time to become well-rounded- explore new venues such as art fairs, museums and concerts. Use it to explore new neighborhoods and cities, to travel, to meet new people, and to become a more dynamic, multi-faceted person that houses unique experiences and varying perspectives.
  • Find passion in what you do. It’s hard to succeed and achieve greatness when when you lack passion. If you find yourself simply going through the motions, take it upon yourself to make a change. Never become complacent, strive for greatness.
  • Become a veracious reader, read good books, and keep a journal. Read works by Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Orwell, Kafka, Dostoyevsky, Tolstoy, Kissinger, etc. It’s a window into a different time period, a different mind, and that’s invaluable wisdom and knowledge at your fingertips.
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