Absolutely agree that too many women spend too much time perfecting lists that don’t matter.
My list is also short and non-negotiable and I think the key to having such a list is self-awareness. When you haven’t figured out who you are and what you want and what kind of life you want to live, it’s easy to get suckered into the maelstrom of chasing all the things you THINK you should want, often times at your own expense because you fail to recognise and/or appreciate the things that matter TO YOU.
Getting older and having that translate into greater self-knowledge is the best part of being over 30, and it’s often then that single women start to date who they want (in every sense of the word) rather than who is “appropriate.” I think most women fail to give themselves permission to want what they want — I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a woman talk about how she can’t be with X because although she likes him and they’re compatible in all the ways that matter, he’s not what her friends expect and ‘what will people think?’ she asks, plaintively…!
Awesome post, as always!