You Don’t Have to be Weak to be a Woman

I’ll say it a thousand times in a thousand different ways if it helps one little girl see her self-worth and travel through this life with less scars. I’ve watched way too many women I love get abused, hurt, and used by men who were taught that a woman’s weakness is where he finds his strength. It’s not about being macho, or independent, or anti-men (I LOVE men) — it’s about realizing that real men aren’t walking around telling you to bow down to them.

Strong women follow strong men. Weak women? They’re lead by weak men.

If you take pride in your woman being insecure, anxious, and timid — know that you are simply a man who is too weak and afraid to see beauty in a woman’s strength. It’s no woman’s job to appear pitiful, or incompetent to make a man feel ‘manly’, or ‘important’. In the same way it is no man’s job to have to tell a woman that she’s beautiful 24/7 so that she feels loved and worthy. It is no HUMAN’s job to make you feel worthy. Those expectations will fall short every time. Your value comes from God and him alone. And in the same way, your strength comes from him and him alone.

A man who respects a woman, and her strengths is incredible. The strongest men are those who don’t have to diminish a woman’s light to make them feel strong. A man who wants success and authority will respect a strong woman that keeps him on his toes. And there are plenty of those guys (I’m lucky to know a bunch of them!). I’m not saying a guy can’t help a girl, I’m not saying that AT ALL. There’s a way to create healthy, balanced relationships where a guy carries heavy things and the girl cooks (if that’s your thing) and there’s a way to create healthy, balanced relationships where the girl decides to carry her own heavy things one day and the guy whips up some spaghetti (if that’s your thing). It’s all about #RESPEK. It’s about loving and serving out of true, deep, and real respect for each other.

You better believe that if I’m ever with someone it’s going to be a man who respects my strength, carries me in my weakness, and pushes me to be better everyday. And in the same way I’ll encourage his aspirations, build him up when he is weak, and be lead by him when I am weak. And I won’t settle for less. I ain’t afraid of #standards and you shouldn’t be either! It’s not about men vs. women, it’s about seeing your worth and the worth of others and stepping up to the plate.