We, at least in our American-ness, have almost no idea of what it means to be in a relationship. Or to be romantic or in love.

That’s probably why it is a huge source of stress for so many. Drama! Anxiety! Will they or won’t they!

The courtship to my wife was nothing like The Bachelor. Or Say Anything. But we are happy.

Yet so many dive into relationships wanting the outcome of a romantic comedy (or tragedy?) because that’s what the media and the pop culture tell us is good and whole. Yet most of us, it seems, probably aren’t smart enough to be in a relationship.