You’re right… but…

I don’t think it is a gay issue, at least in the sense that it is perpetuated just by gay men. I think a large part of it — and I try not to scapegoat- is that society in general sexualizes homosexuality to the point that many gay men think the only way they can express themselves is in sexual terms.

I do believe that younger generations of gays will slowly start to change this tide. I’m in my 20's, just like you, and I, like you, feel the same. I’m lucky enough to be in a relationship, though I am not yet immune to some of the unfortunate preasures of the gay community. We’ve been together for a little over two years. If we were straight, that would be about 10 years. Such a milestone.

I do love what you have posted, and I think it speaks to the fact that we need to work harder to normalize humanism — to make it a point for all people to realize that we need to coexist and live as we will provided we harm none. There is nothing harmful about my relationship, and if it is “normal” for people to follow their own pursuits for happiness, then more gay men will be happy to settle.

Maybe I’m crazy… but that’s what I really believe.