I experienced the opposite.

Yes is easy. Yes doesn’t hurt feelings. Yes is exciting in anticipation of what’s to come. Yes makes us feel like good friends, because we’re always there. Yes is exhilarating. Yes doesn’t hurt in the moment, but spreads us thin over the years. Yes is easy.

No is difficult. No requires us to understand who we are; what we want and don’t want. That kind of self-awareness hurts. No requires us to be willing to offend people; be willing to lose — arguably — close friends. No admits to ourselves that we may prefer solitude a couple of nights a week over the exciting concert with friends.

Thank you James Altucher