My husband has been diagnosed with asperger’s syndrome…if I did not tell him how I feel he would not know. And the same for him, he experiences things differently than I do, I need that communication from him that it is too loud when I put the dishes in the cupboard, for example. He’s not being picky, it’s his perceptions, he can’t help it. If we didn’t communicate A LOT we would not have a marriage. He IS entitled to know my feelings, and I am entitled to know his.