Thanks for such a timely and great article, Ben. In a similar vein, military speak for coping with really tough situtions has been “embrace the suck”; running from or denying a situation is the antithesis to progress. Deal with it, dig in and solve the problem.
Your comments on the “love oneself” culture are intriguing as well. While I do think that children should feel unconditional love from their parents, I’m concerned that we have engaged in doing so much for them (e.g., “helicopter parenting”) that they never have to fail — or succeed — on their own. That in itself is tragic. Thank you for the reminder that we as adults have to embrace discomfort and provide the example and guidance to others as well.