How to get rid of a complainers heart.
I can’t say I’m not guilty of complaining every now and again. It’s hard to keep our thoughts to ourselves, especially if it’s something we feel the need to complain about. This might be the strangest example, but have you ever noticed how when a person smells something bad, they proceed to ask someone else to smell it too? For some reason we want other people to experience the same nose-hair-singeing smell as we do. It’s the strangest thing, but it makes complete sense. Looking at the root of it we always want people to agree with us and validate our feelings in situations even if it is agreeing that something smells horrid.
Complaining is truly a heart issue. If our heart is not in the right place about any situation, we will always find something that we dislike about it. It is so easy to let circumstances influence our mindsets. We can’t go into every situation in life looking for faults.
Complaining breeds gossip.
If we surround ourselves with people who grumble and complain, nine times out of ten we will see our hearts change towards the topic and join the complaining train. Now, I’m not saying to hold all of your feelings in and never tell anyone. Venting is healthy and should happen with you and another person you go to when you seek council, but venting with malicious intent is where the complaining turns to gossip.
Jesus never complained.
Jesus had so many more reasons to complain than we do. We forget what he’s done for us when he died on the cross. The reality of his broken flesh doesn’t seem to effect our hearts like it should. He had every opportunity to say “No, I can’t do this anymore!”, but he didn’t. He endured the cross only to have his followers half-heartedly sing out to him. When you find yourself in Jesus, you have become all that Jesus is. We have nothing to contribute, yet he still relentlessly pursues a relationship with us that no human relationship could ever replicate.
Perspective is everything and complaining can alter your mindset for life. So, next time you have the urge to make a negative comment towards something, take a step back and evaluate your heart behind your thought.
“A complaining tongue reveals an ungrateful heart.”-William Arthur Ward
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”