Marriage is a choice

I have really been thinking about marriage, and about my marriage. Just thinking about what I have done wrong in my marriage and what the common mistake is in marriage. I have concluded that we are doing it all wrong, for me I was always focusing on what makes me happy and how he can satisfy me and not what I could do for him. For me, when I first got married I thought that keeping the house clean and cooking was really all that I had to do, not much else. I didn’t do this to be selfish, that is really all I knew. It took I would say a good 6 years for me to figure out exactly what was missing. Marriage is not about having someone else to take care of you and to give you everything that you want in life. Marriage is about you saying what can I do for this person. How I can be their person, how can I lift them up when they are down. In marriage when one makes a mistake we are ready to kick them to the curve and just get a brand new one, but how can we be so sure that person is flawless, no mistakes. We can’t, so we go through life getting a new person after new person and still looking for that right person. I think it is time for us to look in the mirror and see the flaw that we are, and fix that. I was watching The longest ride and in the movie after the husband died, he auctioned off all his wife painting, and in his will he stated that whoever brought the painting of his wife, (the least expensive painting), would have the whole collection, that made that person one of the richest people in that city. It was because that man valued the most important thing, his wife. Even in the movie, when she left for a bit, he stayed his ground, did not go and look for anyone else, he waited for the love of his life to come back. For me, I have learned that the most important thing in life is my family. I have learned that money is not important and things, because the most thing I value most is my husband and my children and I would give up the whole world for my people.