It’s Okay Not To Be Okay!
How many times you heard people tell you that they are not okay .
How many times you told them that “it’s just a phase” or“you will be okay “, or “Be strong” or “to get over it “.
No, It is not just a phase.No, it’s not going to be okay.No,being strong is not in their hands.When do we understand that mental illness is real and there are various types from clinical depression to dementia, bipolar disorder to Schizophrenia,anxiety to obsessive compulsive disorder .
We often mistake depression with normal down periods that we go through once in awhile,that can be brought on by a broken heart, the flu or even for no particular reason. We mope around, listen to sad music and feel sorry for ourselves and such moods go away in couple of days and we enjoy life again.
Clinical Depression is more than that, it like comparing a sneeze during regular downtime to pneumonia. It can affect person in many ways than we can think of from appetite, sleep patterns, concentration, and even slow down movement and speech. Unlike a passing mood, depression dominates a person’s life and brings it to a screeching halt.
Most of the people around us are scared to open up or accept it because of the stigma attached to mental illness .When some people try to open up about it , we shut them down . We often tend to forget that how unique each one of us are and how perception and acceptance of things varies from person to person. Something which is too big to handle for you might be a cakewalk for someone and vice versa. Have you ever thought, how would you feel when you knew something was wrong with yourself,when you’re too uncomfortable with yourself to even enjoy just one night alone,when you would be worried something might happen that you couldn’t handle, feeling like you have lost something but having no clue when or where you last had it,then one day you realize what you lost is yourself.Isn’t it horrendous ?
You might meet someone at office ,she might be bubbly, stylish, her personality lights up the whole room and most of the time it seems like she has all her ducks in a row, would you ever imagine she has her own battles with mental health?? No , because when someone always bubbled up with energy can’t be under depression right and that’s where we all go wrong. You will find hell lot of books with “help yourself “ sections and saying you can’t afford negative thoughts(as if you are having fun spoiling your mind with negative thoughts :/ ) and when it comes to depression, there will be no shortage of advice.Apparently one can embrace depression, use it as a tool for self-discovery, and run it off kind.
This attitude is dangerous.The number one cause of suicide is untreated depression. Why don’t people get treated? Probably because they are being told by society,family and friends with their own misconceptions of mental illness that depression is just a mood that they should be able to control. They believe that a life-threatening illness can be managed by happy talk and an upbeat demeanor. It’s like trying to treat diabetes by skipping dessert. It doesn’t work, and it’s dangerous to your health. You would never say “It’s just Cancer, get over it “ so why for depression when it is as critical as cancer and take person’s life.
I read somewhere that 75 percent of adults said that someone with depression could get better just by being more positive.
Can you imagine the same 75 percent saying that someone who is paralyzed just needs to work out more, or that someone who is mentally retarded just needs to think “power thoughts”?
“You don’t understand depression until you can’t stand your own presence in an empty room”
To the one’s fighting with it every thought is a battle,every breath is a war.If only we all can be more empathetic ,compassionate towards each other , because they are not living, they are surviving . Depression can’t be fought alone!
So next time before you tell some it’s just a phase or you gotta be strong or that’s okay , tell them It’s okay not be okay let’s talk , tell them It’s okay to cry and whine , make them see the hidden light in the dark tunnel .
Be someone’s sunshine!!