What if Your Wedding Vendors Reviewed You, Bridey?
Recently, I had the opportunity to work with a truly amazing bride. She was friendly, organized and considerate of every single person who had a hand in the wedding planning. This chick was even friendly to those who didn’t have a hand in the wedding planning, but wished they did (like her soon-to-be MIL who I know was driving her crazy!). Totally a Bitchless bride! And, as I was placing the final touches at the venue, and bullshitting with the DJ, both of us said how great it was working with her because as we both know, it could go either way. And after we traded a few horror stories about crazy, bitchy brides of the past, he said, “Wouldn’t it be great if we could review them?” I stopped in my tracks… Holy shit. It would be great if we could review our brides. It would be fabulous if we could review our brides! It might even be life changing, for vendors and brides alike. But, how?
Well, think about it, bridey… If there was an outlet, similar to Yelp, WeddingWire, etc. where following your wedding, your vendors could write a review about you and your behavior/attitude while planning, would that impact how you conducted yourself? Wait! Before you answer the question, allow me to keep going for a bit… What if this outlet was powerful enough to alter the course of your professional life? Similar to the way a negative review can wreak havoc on our business, a negative review could potentially ruin a fantastic job opportunity for you, bridey (like it does for us), get you fired (as it can for us), and completely soil your reputation as you know it.
Imagine if a potential (or even your current) employer “Googled” you, and could read about how you treated your wedding vendors without hearing “your side of the story.” Scary, right? Pretty fucked up? Yes! Because in their eyes? These reviews reveal a lot about how you behave under pressure, and how you treat people in the process… Bridey, if you were a raving lunatic or even had one loony moment, you’d probably have some explaining to do or perhaps you’d miss a chance to land your next big career move… Pretty damaging for some of you, right? And, what if one of the reviews was written by a dishonest asshole deliberately trying to hurt you? Pretty unsettling, huh? Well, that’s exactly how we, your vendors, feel when shit gets posted without our version of the truth. It can be extremely damaging for us, and considering that perfecting your wedding is how we put food on the table, it can be catastrophic.
Now, bridey, answer the question… If there was a site for vendors to review brides in the same way you very publicly review us, would that change your behavior during wedding planning? Would it change how you treat people knowing that your behavior and conduct could leave a lasting impression not only on your vendors, but on your career too?