
To have and to hold, but mostly have…
Perhaps dating is like share trading, you get sucked in by cheap fees and come out married to a Gold Mine in a third world country, with no gold. If it sounds familiar, then it’s very likely we are co- owners of the same company or have been shagging the same guy. High risk, huge investment and zero returns. But what a life lesson hey!? — you would say if you were one of those chronically annoying optimists. Realist’s perspective — that’s fucked, I can’t look at Ramen noodles anymore. Credit to my efficiency though, I got broke and broken hearted in one go, saves time hitting the bottom.
At times, I wish I was a Buffeterian, investing in quality and holding onto it for dear life, it surely would bring me profit and security. But, how unexciting is that? I guess deep down I know, I am nothing but a speculator, buying cheap only to sell even cheaper, forever chasing a dream of catching a Unicorn. They do exist you know, just follow the rainbow and turn left when you hit the horizon. If nothing else, I must admit that walking on a rainbow is fun, and it reminds me that life is a poem and not a spreadsheet. You need to read between the lines, soak up transcendence and maybe figure out the meaning when you are somewhere half way through it. I am a poem too.
Some would argue that love is more than a calculation or a profit / loss sheet. Maybe…I would like to think so. But the everyday, run of the mill, standard issue type of love, likes to have accounts balanced. I know that it is not very Mother Theresish, but stripped bare love may just be another business transaction dressed up in sunsets and romantic dinners. We give, we receive, they stop, we bail. You may love your partner with all your heart but how long will you continue to do so, when they stop loving you and start loving someone else? Call it hostile takeover if you will. And you are discounted if you have OCD, obsession is not love. I am not actually burning Big L to hell, far from it, I think that knowing its limitations will make it last longer, instead of bursting like subprime housing market in USA. Love and possession co-exist and shape our daily experience of being with others. It’s not a bad thing, it’s a human thing. If you can truly love and not have, you are welcome to move on to the next level of this game. For the rest of us mortals, we just need to suck it up and make smarter investments.
