90 Day Fiance Star Recounts Assault; Friend Says, “Why Didn’t You Want Him To Kiss You?” (Not Satire)

Bonnie J Sludikoff
8 min readJan 3, 2022
Photo by SHAKEEL AHAMMED on Unsplash

Oh hi, just another night of me yelling at my TV screen while I watch rape culture run rampant on 90 Day Fiance, The Single Life. In this extra-special episode- Season 2, Episode 6, beautiful and feisty Natalie Mordovtseva, a 37- year-old Russian woman has been broken down to tears by the gaslighting of two friends- Jolanta and Ryan.

The three sit on the beach, and Natalie relives a traumatic date where alleged “nice guy” Johnny got aggrresive with her. It’s not just a story to viewers as we all saw that happen in footage shown in Season 2 Episode 4.

Natalie’s date crossed what might be the most clear boundary ever set by a human in the history of the world, and after her date’s egregious behavior shocked and startled her, she slapped him. It wasn’t a punch in the face, he barely flinched.

But before we address the slap, first lets go back to the afternoon of the date. This was a second date between Natalie and Johnny. They visited an aquarium and saw turtles behind rehabilitated.

Nothing looked super sketchy, but it was noticeable how much Johnny playfully made physical contact, putting his arms around his date, touching her. It’s not that anything Johnny does qualifies as “inappropriate…

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Bonnie J Sludikoff

Creating healthy conversations about challenging topics. Writer, performer, activist. Trauma-informed. Founder of Thats What She Didn’t Say & Outdoor Voice Fest