I saw the title and I thought — this must be sarcasm. There’s no way a victim should blame herself for what another person did. Or that she should be blamed for the guy straying. And then I thought it’s like beaten wives often say: “It’s not his fault, it’s mine. I deserved it. He’s a good guy, he even brings me flowers sometimes” — This while wearing a black eye and a broken rib.
Good job for getting out of there in time.