Good Vibes Only: The Myth

Fret Not The Bad Days, Life Is Not Meant To Be Great All The Time

Brenna Rayne
Mar 31 · 4 min read
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We set ourselves up for failure when we deny ourselves of bad days. They are going to happen regardless of what we want.

Therefore, truly, we can’t deny ourselves of bad days, at all.

We can beat ourselves up for being in a funk and push ourselves to do X, Y, and Z or we can go do something else that we hope will change the vibe du jour but is there any point? Will it actually help.

When it comes down to it, if you have a soul you are going to have days and moments that are below par and that’s just part of life.

We were created in a world of duality: positive and negative, good and bad, ego and spirit.

We have the very clear option at every moment of every day to choose good or bad in any given situation.

For example, if there is trash on the ground and I see it, I have two choices: I can pick it up and look for a trash can, or I can keep walking and leave it there. If I choose to pick it up, I am creating good Karma in my life and I am doing good for Mother Earth. If I choose to see it and move on, maybe it will eat away at my conscience and create negativity in my mind or maybe a bird will eat it and that isn’t great, either.

Either way, there is always a choice to make and we can literally do whatever we want. We are the captain of our own ship.

We have to understand that there is dark and light in this life that ebb and flow on our journey. Also, there is pleasure and pain with both aspects making it difficult sometimes for us to discern right from wrong.

At the end of the day, it’s alright and we shouldn’t attach ourselves to it either way. But that’s a topic for another article.


Some people call it yin and yang, some call it divine feminine and divine masculine, some call it Ego and Spirit, some call it duality. The list goes on.

The goal is to keep the two sides balanced.

They are both together within us and within life. So, why force division between them? Why not promote a healthy relationship?

How do we do this? Does this mean I need to go out and do something terrible because I have been picking up the trash of strangers for days?

No.

Luckily, there is an easier solution to help aid the balancing:

Embrace your funk. Accept your bad day. Allow yourself to feel bummed. Let yourself cry over the dirty floor that would be quicker to clean than cry over.

Be you. Be cranky. Be however it is that comes natural in that moment.

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Be grateful, even. Because now you can have balance without going out and stealing everyone’s gnomes out of their garden.

With all of that said, I don’t mean to belittle the part of it that genuinely is upsetting and disappointing. When we feel down for seemingly no reason, it can be so hard not to feel defeated and sad. Especially when it is sunny outside or when we have a lot we need or want to do.

It’s not easy. It’s not like we are laying in bed crying over hypothetical worries or even actual worries or sitting on the couch eating ice cream thinking about how badly we need to work out and then all of sudden we think “No no this is fine. This is fine. This is good. This, this is a balancing exercise. I am grateful, I am happy about this.” And poof, it all goes away.

Nope. It’s still there. We are still crying and eating ice cream off the floor while doing something similar to yoga.

Honestly, It may still even be there tomorrow.

But it wont be there forever.

Another day will come that brings you so much joy that you can’t stop smiling. Another day will come that you have the giggles and you daydream about all of the trips you will take one day because you know you will take trips in the future because you know you are worth it. And believe it or not, another day will come that you won’t even remember this bad day because you will be so consumed by happiness.


The fact of the matter is: It’s not easy. But if we change our perspective on it, we may find that there is a lot of magic in denying the theory that only good vibes are allowed to have a good life.

We hurt ourselves by setting those high standards. We are humans.

We just simply aren’t perfect and the sooner we accept ourselves for this fact, the happier we can go on being.

Would you scoff and turn your back on a loved one for being down and out? I think not. So, let’s not do that to ourselves. Let’s love ourselves on these days. Hold ourselves. Bathe ourselves. Read ourselves a book.

We must allow ourselves to feel. Life will still be there on the other side.

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Brenna Rayne

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Thinker of thoughts, feeler of feels. Writing to understand the many aspects of existence.

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