“And for all these, God of forgiveness, forgive us, pardon us, and grant us atonement.”
Over the past few days, I’ve taken time to reflect on the people in my circle, or as I like to call it, my tribe.
I’ve been blessed to welcome some amazing people into my tribe this year. But I’ve also had a few people leave. As I get older, my tribe has certainly decreased in size, but greatly increased in value. It is all about quality over quantity.
Today begins the Jewish holiday of Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. Yom Kippur is the holiest day of the Jewish year. It is a day when Jews are supposed to reconnect with God, their friends, their family and themselves.
We are commanded to acknowledge the sins we may have committed over the past year and seek forgiveness from those whom we may have wronged. And in turn, we are instructed to accept apologies from others who have caused us pain.
Yom Kippur is one of the most reflective holidays on the Jewish calendar. And it is quite humbling to think that we are all sinners and we’re all a little broken.
In life, I think we oftentimes get caught up in the wrongs that people inflict on us. When we are hurt, we become bitter. And instead of letting our pain dissipate, we keep it close to our heart.
Forgiveness has become one of those things that we unconsciously attribute to weakness. We believe that letting go is feeble or vulnerable. But the truth is, vulnerability is vital.
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean making amends with those who have hurt you and it certainly does not mean validating what they have done. Forgiveness simply means accepting responsibility — not for causing the destruction, but for cleaning it up. It’s a decision to make restoring your inner peace a priority.
As we enter a new year, be sure to ask for forgiveness, accept other’s apologies and always remember that life becomes a hell of a lot easier when you accept the apology you never received.
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
G’mar Hatimah Tovah — may you be inscribed in the Book of Life for good.