Amanda, thank you for your respectful response. I will attempt to be just as respectful with mine.
There are two issues in your response that I’d like to address. The first is that your disapproval of your gay friends’ actions is a personal one. Actually, I have no problem with that. (Well, I have a philosophical problem with that, but that’s something we can debate back and forth all day to no avail.) The problem arises when Christians attempt to legislate their personal beliefs. There is absolutely no question in my mind that gay people should be allowed to marry. If the Constitution means anything at all, this must be so. Banning gay marriage is no different than banning interracial marriage or denying women the right to vote. It is a civil rights issue, and one’s personal religious beliefs should not factor into it. You can disapprove of gay marriage, your church can decide not to recognize it, but our country cannot deny it. You did not state your opinion on this matter, so the point I’m making here might be unnecessary in this particular case. However, I felt it should be said.
The second issue is with the logic behind this statement: “We all sin in different ways, and in our Heavenly Father’s eyes, all sins are equal.” That is certainly something I once believed in, and it used to make sense to me. I’m not going to argue orthodoxy here, partly because it would get far too complicated for a blog response, but mostly because I’m not qualified. I do know there are many biblical scholars and Christians out there who challenge the idea that Jesus condemned homosexuality. Perhaps you have studied this issue in depth and found that you do not believe it is true. I know other Christians who have studied the issue in depth and decided gay relationships are not contrary to the Christian faith.
I am no longer a Christian, but I understand having moral objections to lying, cheating, killing, etc. These are actions that can hurt others or oneself, and I understand calling them “sins.” But I cannot understand having a moral objection to love. And that’s what this is. No one will ever convince me that my dear friends are not in love just because they happen to both be male. You can see it when they look in each others’ eyes, you can hear it when they say each others’ names. They have nursed each other through sickness and carried each other through emotional turmoil. They have built a life together. And I cannot understand how anyone could talk with them, laugh with them, cry with them, and then say that their relationship is anything but love. Every day for the rest of their lives, they will bring joy and happiness to each other. I’m sorry but that is not a sin. And if it is, the word “sin” is meaningless.