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Stop Seeking Yourself

And start creating who you want to be

Do you even know who that person is?

The world’s full of people trying to find themselves. Some sit cross-legged on hay in freezing winter-bitten caves on mountaintops to meditate. Most, though, travel, delve into self-development, or struggle without a plan. They seek an answer to the wrong question.

“Who do I want to be?” makes more sense than “Who am I now?”

Individuals wanting to see their ‘real’ selves search in the pages of self-help books, science, fairy tales, and Greek philosophy. This is useful if they sniff the scent of who they are through mythological characters, theories, and the experiences of writers. But they don’t find satisfaction.

You don’t think you are like them? How about when you took that personality test? Weren’t you keen to discover more about yourself? Didn’t you want to dig, get to the bottom of what you are?

Wayne Dyer had something interesting to say about you.

“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”

The real McCoy, the genuine you, the essence of who you are would be in your hands if you acted like the person you wanted to become. You wouldn’t need to sift through quizzes in magazines or self-growth books to uncover yourself.

The shape of you was never entirely clear when you discovered you responded to most personality quiz questions with A answers or B answers, or whatever you chose.

You weren’t wholly satisfied that you identified who you were when your teachers, friends, family, and employers labeled you as a certain ‘type’ of person like kind, funny, or dependable. You knew these descriptions were far too simple to explain the complexity of you.

But that’s okay. No off-the-rack recipe from someone else’s head can successfully pour the ingredients of you into a couple of lines or paragraphs.

Once again, “the more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.” Why not create yourself in the image of the best version of you possible instead of looking for yesterday’s you?

I know you already have a good idea about who you want to be. Maybe you don’t recognize it consciously though. It’s stuck in the part of your mind that’s hidden and shows itself in the qualities you admire in your heroes. Those fine character traits are the ingredients you want to sprinkle into your psyche and drag up by the bootstraps if they exist beneath your surface.

If you are a seeker of the true you, it’s wise to stop looking for something made from your history and start “being” the you of the future. Act like you are that individual now and that’s who you will become.