As I said before, it’s not about finding somebody to magickally fix you. A lot of people approach it that way, but it seems wrongheaded to me. A lot of my therapy experiences are more about gaining perspective on the causes of my depression and anxiety and finding ways to make progress and get out of those habits of thinking and feeling. Maybe I could get there on my own, but my depression is such that I often doubt my own abilities to fix myself. Asking my friends to listen is helpful, but I don’t want to overburden them, and some of the things I’m talking about with my therapist are things I can’t bring up with them easily or at all.
Therapy is also very diverse. There are tons of approaches to choose from. I think it might be possible to stack the odds of finding a helpful therapist in your favor if you look into these different approaches and their applications.
I don’t think that therapy would “fix” everybody or make everybody’s lives perfect. I do think that therapy has distinct advantages over other forms of social support and can help most people improve their lives.