You’ve probably been told that you have to love yourself in order to have the loving relationship you want, but now that you know this, you need to know how to love yourself. What does it really mean to love yourself? Loving yourself means knowing yourself, honoring your needs, validating…

Dear Caitlin, I have a boyfriend that thinks it’s ok to hang out with his ex behind my back and just recently he went to a fraternity event and ended up taking pictures and slow dancing with an old friend female of course while I’m at his house waiting for…

Recently, I’ve been training for an upcoming hiking adventure in the Smokey Mountains. I’ll be hiking a 2000–3000 foot mountain. I began training a couple months ago, building my endurance and breaking in my brand new hiking boots. I was well on my way to getting stronger…until I got covid…

Dear Caitlin, I am 23. I have never had a real boyfriend. I have never been asked on a date. I am not sexually active. My DMs are dry. As I know looks are just a small portion, I am a very beautiful young lady. I am very well educated…

First dates don’t mean very much. There’s no need for all the pressure and anxiety. You are meeting a total stranger (no matter how long you texted or spoke before you met, they are still a stranger). …

Hi Caitlin. As a person with mostly anxious attachment (although my actions are to avoid showing this and avoid relationships in general, bc they trigger this), how do you recommend dealing with the trigger when (not if) it happens? The nervous system has a life of its own and activates…

Millennials have been described as a more self-centered, thin-skinned, and lazy generation than any before. According to Jean M. Twenge, PhD, author of, Generation Me: Why Today’s young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled — and More Miserable Than Ever Before, these criticisms of Millennials are largely accurate. Twenge uses…

Hi Caitlin. I have had an abusive childhood and then an emotionally abusive marriage that lasted 7 yrs. I’m no contact now with all my family but one sibling. We grew up without aunts, uncles and grandparents as my mother cut them out one by one. I didn’t have any…

A lot of people want a healthy, serious relationship. Wanting a serious relationship is one thing but being ready for one is another thing. If you aren’t ready for the serious relationship you want, either nothing will work out, or you’ll get into short term relationships or toxic relationships. The…