On the outside
Everything appears calm and collected. Perfect job, wonderful family, great house in a great neighborhood. But deep inside, in a world of pretty pictures we post, funny memes, and a perfect story we try to tell, lies the truth. You know, it’s funny that there ‘lies the truth’. How often is the truth that we portray, or view from others, actually a lie?
I’ve found writing to be very therapeutic to me. It calms the soul. How ironic considering it was English class in high school that seemed to give me the most grief, yeah I remember you Ms Mcgee. Don’t let others tell you that you can’t.
I would have a hard time arguing with you that my life isn’t perfect. I do have a wonderful wife, my kids are very well behaved, I love our neighborhood and we’ve been incredibly blessed. But I am not perfect. I am far from perfect, yet as I sit here in Barbados, waves sloshing on the shore outside my window, I want to invite you inside. I want to invite you to follow me on this journey of life. I’ve often felt that I experience things in life that I may share what I’ve learned and help strengthen others.
My relationship with God has been rocky of late. Late, how about the last 5 years or so, sound like you? I haven’t been as diligent at praying, reading the good word, or really trying to be a better person. See, when all is well in life, that’s when Satan gets us. “Others will he pacify, and lull them away into carnal security, that they will say: All is well in Zion; yea, Zion prospereth, all is well-and thus the devil cheateth their souls, and leadeth them away carefully down to hell.” (2 Nephi 28:21) The second you get comfortable he has you. It’s that simple. I got comfortable.
My thesis is this when it comes to writing this blog: I’m trying to be a better person, and you’re trying to be a better person, so let’s all try and be better together and beat the devil. Let’s do that by having fun, living life, and spreading good. I don’t want one soul lost to complacency. I don’t want one person to come short of trying to reach their potential. I want us to find strength in understanding we are not in this alone. I want to be real.
Will there be some spirituality in this blog? Absolutely. And if that makes you uncomfortable, maybe you should find out why? Maybe it’s time that you had a heart to heart with yourself and reevaluate your relationship with God. I’m not afraid to talk about it. I can’t be. There’s too much of removing God from our lives and our country, I want to infuse Him into every aspect of our lives. He is our Father after all. As our Father He loves us and wants us to succeed. And we need His help. Not just when times are tough. All the time.
Now, I can also promise you also this blog will be more than a preachy sermon every week. Come with me as I travel the world, start a business, try and raise my children, and love my wife to the best of my ability. This is about trying to be our best selves. This is about becoming (to borrow a current hashtag) lights to the world. More than anything I want you to read this and feel inspired to go and be a better person, to rise above what is holding you back, and find the strength to reach your potential.
On the outside, we have become masters at portraying an edited reality. We share with the world what we are comfortable with. This isn’t a terrible practice and every waking detail of our lives doesn’t need to be shared, but please don’t compare yourselves to others. Behind the perfect family portrait, fancy whip, new promotion etc, everyone struggles with something. Keep your head down and focussed on improving YOU every single day. I don’t care if you’re 20, 30, 65, or 85, every single day, just be a better you. That’s it.