How to navigate the moving process
Moving experiences from a young twenty something.
Moving is a physical thing human beings do naturally everyday. Unless you’re like me today, in which the case is moving from the couch seems quite impossible. Nevertheless! My point is we do move daily and it tends to be in ways we don’t always think about. We stand up from the couch, walk to the fridge, travel to the store, party amongst friends, or even dance around alone in our underpants when nobody’s watching. Or maybe they are watching.
I’m not talking about everyday movement right now. I’m talking about the act of packing up and moving where we live. Living is a big deal. It’s like, life. Where we do life, is a big deal.
Take our ancestors for example. Berry picking and hunting for food, or gathering their belongings every few days and pressing on to find a new ground to settle because conditions were bad. They’re reason for where they did life? Survival.
Fortunately for me I haven’t been consumed by berries or enemies. With that in mind, I have spent time during my moves along with once my moves are complete, thinking about some other things.
Things like how moving six or seven times over the past five years I’ve learned a thing or two about the moving process and I’m going to share some of it. Read on for my best tips on understanding the moving process.
During my most recent moves I’ve become a professional minimalist, learned the important nuances of storage boxes, discovered how many nooks and crannies suitcases truly have, and hauled furniture twice my size in elevators and up stairs. Not to mention the countless relationships I’ve built, lost, fostered, etc.,
So yes. There’s a lot of moving parts here no pun intended. But we don’t always consider that first thing once we decide to pack up and go. I’ve learned even with the right amount of time and energy, moving will always be a strenuous yet incredibly rewarding process. Now, I don’t believe it’s a seamless process.
I do however believe moving involves mental obstacles that we learn to overcome as we mature in order to become better life travelers. Here’s what I think.
The Moving Process
Step one: Accept the move.
Something most people struggle with even when self induced is change.
Big decisions take time to process. Especially when the big decisions impact an overall stability in our life.
Like a move.
Look at yourself, and your life, and accept that it’s about to change.
- Expect the unexpected, without giving yourself an aneurysm.
- Stay optimistic, but realistic.
- Remain positive, while allowing room to genuinely process.
I’ve learned there’s a fine line between sanity and insanity when it comes to managing change. Maybe take an edible or two along the way.
Step two: Time manage the move.
So, you’ve accepted change. Great. Next, give yourself a few hours, or days to get all your ducks in a row.
There are a lot of other responsibilities we’re usually juggling even in the midst of a move. Without planning ahead, it’s easy to overlook things we’re normally used to doing on an everyday basis that might have real consequences when we forget about them. Otherwise, you’ll notice all of your other responsibilities creep up on you like a turtleneck after three hours of manic shopping and now you can’t seem to get away from a vigorous chokehold of a 98% cotton shit show.
While you’re be moving, overestimate what you may need for a few days in order to stay on top of your time.
Which brings me to my last point.
Step three: Be the move.
Take control. Use the last two steps to really feel like you’re on top of the choices you’re making. Don’t complain. Don’t worry about what’s ahead. Pack up your stuff. Clean out your closet and get rid of things. Have honest conversations with yourself and with the people around you about what’s going on with you and the transition you’re in.
A quote I’ve been trying to live by in my relationships recently especially since I’ve recently moved, is, “It’s not everyone else’s job to know what’s going on with you.” -Anon. Our relationships are an important part of this process. Accept that.
Personally, I like to complain. Especially when I’m uncomfortable, annoyed, tired, hungry — all of the things moving evokes. I try my best not to complain though, in my head, or aloud. I recognize complaining is a bad habit.
Sometimes life feels rough though. I get it. When your wardrobes been condensed to a box or seven, your bathroom’s sitting somewhere in the back of a U-haul who some guy named Ricky is driving across the country, you haven’t brushed your teeth in 24 hours (gross) because you’ve been running around trying to get everything done in an unrealistic amount of time and all you want is a burger and fries and a cold shower—
Moving is a big part of our lives. Some could argue it defines who we are. It’s more than just taping up a box and sending it off to a new address. There’s obviously due diligence to moving. Own it. Or, break down like I must have, at least 75 times until I got the hang of moving and what moving meant to my life.