In my experience, people that complain about repeating failing patterns in dating were failures themselves without realizing it. In this case, those guys that you bluntly classify as “losers” in a pretty trumpesque fashion -I could certainly imagine him calling people that struggle with such things as alcoholism, drug addiction, bipolarity and anxiety disorder as losers- were not looking for simply a partner: they were looking for an enabler. Someone that treats their “losing” with condecendence, someone that makes them feel special without deserving it, but who is actually making things worse. Trust me, they are better off without you, as much as you are better off without them. So, all of you that felt related to the writer, try to at least feel a little bad about it.