I wrote this over a month ago after an argument with a friend. I didn’t publish it then, but I do think it’s important now. White people are important in fighting the racism and hatred that this election has encouraged. So I think it’s important to get on the right page of what it means to support the communities that are being attacked. It takes more than a safety pin or other symbol. It takes action. It takes understanding. It takes time. It takes a willingness to look closely at yourself and listen to those around you as they tell you what they need. It may hurt to have someone question you as the nice, anti-racist person that you think you are, but think instead of the person that you want to become. No one is perfect. We all have prejudice and misguided ideas. …


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Political correctness — the (exaggerated) woe of so many. Clearly, I think the complaints are petty. And not even the fun kind of petty like an argument on Real Housewives of [Upscale Municipality].

To be “politically incorrect” is not against the law, but a social faux pas in many circles — and welcomed in many other circles. For people who complain about how we have to be so politically correct nowadays, I wonder if they’ve considered the history of how certain groups of people have been allowed to speak or interact with other groups of people. I wonder if they’ve ever truly felt the hypocrisy of our Constitution and its amendments in concordance with the actions of our country. …


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Girls and women should be pretty. You need to be easy on the eyes, easy on the nerves — be nice, don’t argue. Even if you are smart, you shouldn’t get too smart — people don’t like a girl who speaks her mind too much or is too competitive with men. But being just smart enough is a tricky balance, so it’s probably best to focus on being pretty. Pretty and smart? Lol. That’s not a thing. Oh, you have two advanced degrees and a senior position at your organization? Well, of course you do — look at your amazing figure and flawless hair! …

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