Do gentlemen still exist in the 21st century?

I’m 21 years old and I’ve dated “good” guys and “bad” guys. I’m currently in my senior year of college. I’ve learned the hard way that men are generally more interested in paying for “one” drink at the bar than actually taking women on a “proper” date.

You may be thinking, “Gentleman”? Well, according to, a gentleman is “a civilized, educated, sensitive, or well-mannered man”. Ummm hello, a gentleman does not need to be categorized as “sensitive”. Even though “sensitive” entails compassion.

Fortunately, I’ve found a few men in the world who have had manners and took me out to dinner and an activity. AND THEY’VE ACTUALLY PAID FOR THE DATE. I KNOW- it’s crazy.

Unfortunately, I’ve been on horrible dates where men ask me to pay for the entire check or we can “split” the check because they’re “took broke” to pay for me.

Hint to all gentlemen: If you’re going to go on a date with a woman: make sure you can pay for it before suggesting dinner and an activity.

I think the concept of “money” on a date is awkward when you’re with a guy that makes it “awkward”. I have to say, I do love going on dates, but I dread when the check comes.

When the check is on the table… there are four different scenarios that usually occur: A. He’ll pick the check up right away and get out his wallet and pay for it (best scenario) B. He’ll look at the check on the table, let the check sit on the table and keep on talking or C. He’ll go to the bathroom when the check comes and then the girl is sitting awkwardly at the table not knowing what to do OR D. He’ll say, ‘It’s $80.40- wanna split?” (Sure?)

It’s also uncomfortable when he asks after dinner, “So, what do you wanna do?” I’ll usually suggest an activity and sometimes they agree and sometimes they’ll say, “Nah, I don’t have enough money for that”. (So uncomfortable)

The worst type of guy is the one who will say, “Do you want to come to my place or your place?” No thank you, sweetheart. The only way I would like to get to know you is if we go out on a proper date.

My parents will reminisce about their days of dating and it’s TOTALLY DIFFERENT. Guys were generally a lot more open to dating and taking women out on the “proper” date that she deserves!!!

What has happened to the population of men that have run away from treating women will respect and dignity?

I, among numerous women in the world are holding a candle for the gentlemen in the world who actually want to take us on dates, have a friendly and intelligent conversation and want to learn as much about us as possible, and a few compliments here and there wouldn’t hurt either! ☺

I want to go back to the generation of admiration, loyalty and trust that men used to give to women before this whole “hook-up” scene happened.

There are always gentlemen in the world, but in the 21st century, we need to look extra hard to find a man that wants to explore new restaurants or try new things with us.

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