Have you tried it?
Aidan Heron
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Hi Aidan,

Yes, it’s hard. The key for me is making peace with what I’m NOT going to spend time on. I’d highly recommend the book “Essentialism” by Greg McKeown — it’s one of the few books that I can honestly say has changed my behavior and the way I think about things.

A key phrase that has stuck with me is the need to separate the “vital few” from the “trivial many.” I find myself saying “yes” to lots of things. This gets me into trouble because I overextend myself and then find that my efforts are diluted. Then I’m bound to disappoint some of the people I’ve said “yes” to… It’s a very easy trap to fall into. I’ve discovered some ways to say “no” to things, AND still be helpful. The book helped me quite a bit with that.

Still, it’s hard.

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