I don’t think your argument holds water.
You cite talking to a few friends and saying they have never experienced prejudice, but that is not a valid way of determining whether there is a problem in society at large.
Read some research – there are very clear imbalances in modern society and if you truly believe in equality for all then the existing problems have to be corrected. It amounts to the same thing.
Speaking of accepting reality, how about this: living as part of a functional society inherently means giving up some individual liberties. You cannot have complete individual liberty and a cohesive society.
We agree implicitly and explicitly the terms on which our society is built: don’t kill each other, don’t steal stuff, don’t rape, and so on.
To me, part of that contract (at least in any society I want to be a part of) is to treat each other with respect and consideration. To listen when a group that is demonstrably disadvantaged speaks out and asks for help.
And, there is a responsibility of members of a society to stand up for those agreed values – even when it is not they that are personally, directly affected.
To quote Niemöller:
First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out – Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out – Because I was not a Trade Unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out – Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me – and there was no one left to speak for me.