And somehow this is how you see it instead of from their perspective which is often that most of their parents or grandparents had no respect for themselves in employment situations where they were screwed out of their benefits, giving direct incentive to the millennials to learn about themselves and the possibilities of life, who consequently are gaining the self-awareness that you’re suggesting?
I don’t think it’s fair to the few bad mouth millennials you’ve met, children compared to your age, who you use as a way to identify an entire generation AND industry (self-help)
This gives me the same vibe from 5–10 years ago when everyone was whining like children about Gen Y for being too demanding when all that was happening is that we were realizing our worth and standing up for ourselves instead of bending over like our parents did.
Anyways, not a rant to you really, just the perspective from this sentence. It hurt me. At any rate, I think it’s just the fact that I don’t see self-help or millennials as the issue here and don’t understand why it was mentioned.
I wrote about Self-awareness in a publication here on Medium that got good attention, explaining how it’s the ability to look into your backpack of life tools to see what you have at your disposal for your life’s journey. Similar to what you said about matching expectations, in a sense, but not.
You see, self-awareness has nothing to do with expectation. Managing the difference between your imagination and the reality of the world is about wisdom. Growing old and coming in contact with life will show you what’s what, real or not, able or not, possible or not.
And this requires experience. So no, I don’t agree that you’re guilty of reading self-help books and taking on projects that you failed at. I would agree that you didn’t/don’t understand that failure is a part of learning, which is exactly what these millennials are doing.
Reading, learning, and making judgements of themselves and the world so they have something to base against reality.
Now, do self-help books give the right perspective for us to use to view the world from? I don’t know. I highly doubt Tony Robbins is capable of putting young adults on the wrong path. So maybe the problem is the author of the books you read.
That being said, Tim Ferris and his 4-hour work week is absolute nonsense and not achievable by it’s definition for 98% of the population. If kids are growing up thinking they can work 1/10th of time necessary for minimum wage and live like kings, maybe Tim wasn’t clear enough about who his book was intended for.
Then again, you cannot knives for cutting kids who mishandle them. Maybe their parents should teach them how to use a knife, and Gen X should teach their children how to be more practical with good knowledge.