Being a gay man, it’s really amazing to see what I’ve been seeing since childhood finally being recognized. Holding onto male friendships, for me, was always a struggle. I noticed by middle school that my feminine qualities left me rejected from the boys, while my masculine and feminine were much more accepted by girls.
I think it’s important to also not ignore how American masculinity has manifested itself in gay men. It’s well-known in our community that the more masculine (“masc’), cisgender, muscular and reserved gay men are seen as more desirable. Not to mention sex, where tops/bottoms are often determined by masculine/feminine qualities.