Gretchen, Stop Trying To Make Bad Days Happen
They are not going to happen.
A few months ago, issues with communication at work came to a crescendo. I was working in food service at the time and I loved being able to have a positive impact on human lives, even if the job was sometimes unpleasant. One day our team realized that a simple miscommunication almost put a life in jeopardy and it left me unable to breathe. Panicky. Nauseous.
I just felt absolutely defeated.
It occurred to me shortly after work that I couldn’t let days like this get the best of me. To serve others, and myself, I had to learn to be more resilient. In order to face these challenges, however, there are a few things to keep in mind.
Properly Taking Care of Oneself
Meditation has been a key way to manage my anxiety over the past year. And there are many components of it that set me up for a positive day.
Long story short. I forgot my morning meditation. Oops.
Each day I focus on three things.
- Letting thoughts that come into my mind flow freely away.
- Reminding myself what I am thankful for.
- Setting an intention for my day.
It takes a few minutes of your time, but the difference in my morning is really sensational. Instead of checking my texts or peeking at the trending topics on Twitter, my morning and my time are truly mine again.
Feelings Don’t Really Exist, But They Are Important
Feelings aren’t tangible. And that’s a good thing. Great, honestly. Because when we fall down and break our leg, we have to deal with a physical ailment. We cannot simply move on from that injury. With our minds, however, there is a lot more wiggle room. This concept really took my understanding of self to a different level.
When I chose to accept the day as “bad”, I forgot the good moments. There were many of great things that happened that day, but if I do not positively reflect upon them, they get overlooked by the struggles. This is why repeated daily affirmations have become commonplace in my life. We are often so stuck in our failures or struggles that we forgot all of the wonderful things in our lives, including our bodies or accomplishments.
Daily affirmations are probably the easiest thing you’ll do all day and provide that little bit of self-love we all need in this hectic, media-drenched world.
Secondly, I chose to see my day as a negative. This sounds, of course, incredibly ignorant. If you asked me last year to simply make a decision to not see my day as bad, I may have laughed in your face. What made the difference to me was understanding that your circumstances and how you respond to them are not the same thing.
“Life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it”
You have probably heard this before. So practice it. It’s not just a quote. Someone shared this idea because they found it valuable. Why would we throw that away?
Each day has the capacity to get better. Right from the moment you fall asleep. Turn on your favorite TV show. Read a chapter of your favorite book. I don’t know…meditate! Anything you can do to refocus and change your perspective will have an incredible impact on not only your sleep, but your tomorrow.
We Always Have The Power To Make A Decision
Decision making persists as one of my biggest downfalls.
That’s why I try to make as many firm decisions I can each day. In the past, and even times in the present, I have justified taking short-cuts when I have a work day that is less than stellar. I’ll frequently tell myself that after struggling through my day, I should do absolutely nothing to make up for it. As if turning off to the world and watching TV will solve all my problems.
This is one area in which I am thankful to have had a somewhat strict upbringing. Bed times were non-negotiable. The kitchen was closed at a certain hour. Showers had to be no more than 10 minutes in length (I am still terrible at this one). Whether my parents meant to or not, they helped me by instilling some fundamentals of self-discipline and I’m sure many parents have done the same.
Every day I work on new ways to enhance the decision making in my life. When I feel tired before my usual bed time? I go to bed. When I know I should eat only one salmon burger instead of 3? I stop and find something to read. There are days, and even weeks, that I fall off the horse. However, I have made a decision to not stop. To continue working to build the most positive, encouraging, life-affirming existence I possibly can.
I also watch a lot of Mulan.
Challenging days suck, but thankfully, they don’t have to be if we don’t let them.
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