…nsibility for my actions, in some ways I think this behavior is exactly what competitive debate and call-out culture trained me to do. The purpose of argument, it seemed, wasn’t to engage in a mutually constructive conversation, to d…
When you view marriage through that lens it becomes transactional, and when one party isn’t paying the bill — game over. every. damn. time. Funny enough, what Kris describes as an ideal relationship is the traditional belief behind what a marriage should be: a covenant.
…hile doing the most damage (Sheryl Sandberg’s talk was titled “What Ki…hile doing the most damage (Sheryl Sandberg’s talk was titled “What Kind of Internet Do We Want?”). I don’t know, Sheryl, maybe one that doesn’t inspire genocide, polarization, or teen depression?
Fighting offers terrible metaphor for partnership. You can never “win” someone else. There’s no external enemy. No guns, switch blades, or Kevlar. We just think there is, when the answers run out. Stop fighting. Instead, invest. If your partner won’t do that, then say goodbye.