I’m Being Selfish This Year
And Every Year Moving Forward
Google defines selfish as being “concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.” For 2017+, I am doing just that, being concerned chiefly with my own success. Gone are the days where I put people who don’t matter to me before myself or my loved ones. Gone are the days where I aim to please everyone. And, most certainly, gone are the days of me refusing to cancel on people just so I can give off the “Chris can do it all” vibe, because I cannot do it all. I try, but am exhausted. Moreover, the only person I’m seeking to please/”do it all” for in 2017 and the years following is myself (and anything that involves my money/career).
I am finishing up my last two years of college, perfecting my writing, surrounding myself with positive energy, and strengthening/refining my connections with family members and friends, are just a few things I’m diverting 99.9% of my attention to this year. Doing so in a way that is convenient for me and my health — taking into account whether or not I’ve gotten enough sleep, eaten enough food (or making sure I eat before 6pm), and got through all the things that I needed to get through for the day.
Contrary to popular belief, the act of selfishness is advantageous. According to Bob Rosen, author of Grounded: How Leaders Stay Rooted in an Uncertain World, “when you take care of yourself first, you show up as a healthy, grounded person in life” (https://www.fastcompany.com/3032673/the-future-of-work/4-reasons-why-being-selfish-is-good-for-you).
This is music to my hears (the good kind of music: Beyonce; Madonna, or 80s music in general).
I want to show up as a healthy individual every single day here on earth.
Don’t you? I want to be unabashedly happy with myself, and all that I’ve done to achieve my goals. You, too, right? If yes, then follow me in choosing to make this year the selfish year.
For me, if 2017 was a magazine/newspaper, we’d be called “The Selfish Issue.”
Beginning with 2017, let’s terminate thoughts that tells us we’re terrible people for appointing ourselves to the number one spot in our lives. At the most basic level, we are the lead character actors in this sitcom (maybe yours falls into the drama category, idk) often referred to as Life. If you’ve watched tv at all in the past 100 years, you’ll know that all lead character actors unfailingly get number one priority on the shows they star in.
Lee Daniels ensures that Taraji P. Henson is happy with whomever is set to guest star on Empire before any other cast member; ABC double checks Kerry Washington’s presence in the media more so than any other cast member of Scandal; and not surprisingly, HBO, on the set of Veep, nixes shooting beyond a certain number of hours, so that actress Julia Louis Dreyfus can often decompress.
Follow what I’m saying? Your life is big business, and you’re supposed to be the sole proprietor of it.
Narrow minded folks are the ones that hear the word selfish and conclude terms like unkind, and uncaring. The act of selfishness doesn’t mean you are unkind and lack feelings toward others, it means that you’re giving yourself precedence over others in your own life.
Not too long ago, I was mentioned to a friend that for 2017, I’m going to take back my life (I’m dramatic) and be on some “me, me, me” ish, she looked at me crazy, and thought that I was going to stop assisting her with life and no longer be there for anyone else around me. Needless to say, I had to explain that my definition of selfishness is dissimilar than most.
My interpretation of selfishness is similar to Melissa Deuter’s, who is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of Texas Health Science Center at San Antonio, which is that being selfish means “that you take responsibility for getting your personal, emotional, and physical needs met” (https://www.fastcompany.com/3032673/the-future-of-work/4-reasons-why-being-selfish-is-good-for-you).
I want to take responsibility for the fact that if I don’t see to it that my needs are met, then who will? So, if canceling on friends more often than usual to focus on my studies, my writing, and getting enough sleep is needed,then so be it. I’d much rather be upbeat, engaged, and enthusiastic when around people than to be exhausted.
So, in short, we all need to follow in the path of making this New Year about YOU. This is your year. We have a President that, if you are WOKE (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=woke), you know only has his best interest in mind, and has not only acted, but spoken in a ways that has led many to believe he lacks concern for a large portion of people living in the world. In my opinion, this is another reason to be selfish with your life, energy, and time that you provide to others.
***This article was first published by Christopher Rengifo for thenygrinder.com***