Nov 23, 2019Hope for a blinding light and a shot of snowThe path of chords created by Silvio Rodriguez’s Ojala always slows me down with a sigh and a smile. The beauty of its music juxtaposed with its sorrowful lyrics speaks directly to how I feel — and sometimes what I want to feel. And I’m not alone. …Music3 min readMusic3 min read
Nov 7, 2019Member-onlyTry holding back a bit to maintain the energy of early romance“I like consistency. Don’t come at me with a vibe you can’t maintain.” When I saw that post from a woman tattoo artist that has worked on me, I just felt it in my heart. How many times have I felt the letdown of lost momentum? How many times have…Dating4 min readDating4 min read
Nov 5, 2019Learning to embrace solitudeI go a lot. I do a lot. I believe in living and enjoying a full life, and I do it. And I do a lot of it alone. Though I am entirely happy with my life, I have moments of discontent and loneliness. Sometimes it is piercing and distracts…Personal Development3 min readPersonal Development3 min read
Oct 28, 2019“You were always grouchy, Mom.”My daughter looked at me with so much love, and also amusement, and said, “You were always grouchy, Mom.” It was like an echo as I sat staring at her across the table in The Nest. “You were always grouchy, Mom.” And she was right. My dear 23-year old daughter…Personal Change4 min readPersonal Change4 min read
Published in The Startup·Oct 25, 2019Member-onlyThe NestI love words. I’ve always loved them. I’ve spent more time dancing with words and language than I’ve spent doing anything else in life, except maybe sleeping. Words and naming are important to me. I don’t casually pick up nicknames for people, and I don’t readily accept them. I needed…Personal Growth5 min readPersonal Growth5 min read
Nov 25, 2018Women leading the way and breathing fire at TEDxDetroitA few weeks ago I was inspired by the courageous women at TEDxDetroit. Here are a few of my favorite talks from the event. Murals in the Market Roula David inspires with her Murals in the Market (Go — see it!) project while exhorting us to be intentionally inclusive in building teams and communities.Tedxdetroit2 min readTedxdetroit2 min read
Nov 18, 2018Sounds of DetroitI’ve never lived in the city of Detroit. For over 15 years, I’ve found shelter in its western suburbs, good public (free) schools, clean, mowed parks, and all the goods I need and want at easy access. Several weeks ago, I attended TEDxDetroit. The speakers encouraged me personally and encouraged…Detroit2 min readDetroit2 min read
Nov 15, 2018We need these boxes.US Census Form View Stock Photo of Us Census Form. Find premium, high-resolution photos at Getty Images.www.gettyimages.com I’m white. My multi-racial daughter identifies as black. With and without her, I’ve thought a lot about race over the years. My understanding of race in the US has evolved, and though I hate it, we still need these boxes. We are not post-racial. We discriminate on so many levels…Racism2 min readRacism2 min read
Published in It's Your Turn·May 8, 2018Study history to learn about empathyThree diverse authors walked into my brain and taught me about empathy. Their writing showed me how our individual perceptions and memories of reality make it imperative to try on different perspectives in order to fully appreciate one another. Who showed up? Margaret Atwood — a Canadian writer of fiction …Personal Development5 min readPersonal Development5 min read
Published in It's Your Turn·Apr 27, 2018Spring cleaning my beingIt hit 75 last week in Detroit! Spring has sprung! Like many of you, I’m preparing for my ritual spring cleaning. I’ll clean out the pantry and get rid of anything expired or that we won’t use. I’ll get rid of clothes I won’t wear, consolidate cleaning supplies, scrub windows…Personal Development3 min readPersonal Development3 min read
