But imagine living in a world where on a regular basis (a) men approach you based only on your physical appearance; and (b) men seem to believe that your intellect and skills are secondary or insignificant.
That’s a pretty damning generalization, don’t you think? Some men will only approach a woman they find attractive, but this isn’t always the case. In the workplace, it’s even less common — much of the time, women assume the worst in their interactions with men, so something that a male coworker believes is innocuous is assumed to be sexist, harassing, or otherwise malicious.
If you assume that all men are going to judge you based on looks and not ability, and if you assume that all men are going to believe your credentials are unimportant, then of course you will view the world through that lens and therefore assume that all interactions with men are predicated on these assumptions.
Believe me, I’ve been there. It’s a miserable existence that makes you unhappy and makes everyone around you unhappy. You’ll find life much more pleasant when you give others the benefit of the doubt and don’t endlessly maintain a defensive position about everything you experience and everyone you encounter.