Jack, thanks for including me such fantastically gifted writers. You honor me. I think half the battle with better understanding this subject matter—or anything—is the sincere desire and attempts to get it. My guess you “get” more than you think you do.
Life is a process, not a destination.
And you know what else? “Getting it” doesn’t have to be to level that it’s deep in your bones. You can get it your head and not get it in your gut. What matters is what you do on a daily basis with the stuff you get.