Clay RiversBlockedUnblockFollowFollowingOptimist and author. Writing at the intersection of race, faith, and equality. Join the conversation, but you have to bring your own espresso.Oct 15, 2015At the root, our greatest fears concern our likeableness. Our lovability. And it’s those fears that can freeze us into a fixed mentality.How to Be the Type of Person Everyone Wants to KnowHazel Gale23K192We all want to loved, accepted, and understood more than anything else in the world.