I WONDER. Did it ever occur to you that your friend wasn’t “forced” to get healthy by people bullying her but maybe, just MAYBE, she HERSELF was sick and tired of making excuses for her girth and pretending it was “OK” to die younger as long as she was “happy” with being that way? If she was all THAT happy and accepting of herself she would not have had the surgery regardless of who didn’t want her to stay fat. I don’t know how big you are, but I think the healthiest way to be is to LOVE yourself during the process of losing it, yes, but by all means LOSE it! Just at least to a point where you are not straining your heart terribly by just getting around!