Heidi K. Isern, you are very wise related to this topic and your conclusions are correct in that many people treat love like they do shopping instead of “loving what’s on hand.” I live in a land where arranged marriages are common. Many have an aversion to this way of marriage but there are some interesting eye opening perspectives to learn from this culture. If interested, take a look: https://acoffeewithfriends.com/2017/02/13/5-lessons-learned-from-arranged-marriages/

Thank you for sharing your wisdom on this topic as you’ve said, so many desperately want to know more! Ann