LOL try living your life as a short man dating women.
Joe Wilson
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I’m also short enough to often feel a bit bitter about the dating market and superficialities. I experience big buckets of short-ignore from strangers every time I go dancing or somesuch … but never from women actually in my life. In my experience, I never have these kinds of problems with people I’m dating — I perceive that I fall outside a quite large number of women’s radar for a very superficial reason, but I’ve never been negged by a partner for being short rather than just filtered out at the beginning. Reading this article didn’t make me feel defensive... it seemed more anti-objectification than battle of the sexes about who is more superficial. Being short means I get less dates, and feel pressure to change my outward personality to be bigger and cockier than my introspective self, but it doesn’t lead to feelings of shame. Nothing in our society makes me feel a deep need to be taller; with a magic wand I wish either I was taller or women didn’t care or I could be cute enough to circumvent that preference, whatever, I don’t feel like society has tried to objectify and burn shame into me, I just have troubles getting dates. Objectification seems a different issue than people having superficial dating requirements — the author even mentioned women on average having as much superficiality as men. Objectification seems like sticky superficiality, going on much longer and deeper than Tinder. Neither is ideal, but once you know a human being well, do you [can we] turn it off, or is it burned in deep?