The big question when looking at community living is, who is facilitating it? If done right, such is the case with high functioning cohousing, the community functions efficiently and the residents are active members within it. If not done right, it is almost certain that the problems you address in the blog will come up.
Don’t get me wrong, cohousing is distinct from communes and other co-operative living spaces. Cohousing is designed by and all decisions are made by the future residents, with help from an architect who has built high-functioning cohousing communities before. Funding and other legal aspects often lead to big headaches and turmoil within a forming group, and cohousing facilitators, one being Cohousing Solutions, understand this. They have helped many groups to get projects built on time and on budget.
It is very important that those interested in cohousing understands these distinctions before getting into a community. “Creating Cohousing: Building Sustainable Communities” is one of a few books, which are used as invaluable resources for cohousing groups around the world.
To counteract a fairly discouraging blog post as the one above, I think it is appropriate to bring in the alternative plus-side post. Chuck Durrett of McCamant and Durrett Architects is one of leading authorities in cohousing in the U.S. It’d be great if you interviewed him on the benefits to living together in cohousing.