Run away, run away
“If you have no expectations from Life, you don’t have any disappointments.” — a friend
“Life is an illusion, just a dream, a nightmare. Nothing you do really matters.” — an acquaintance
“To escape suffering you need to let go of your attachment to worldly things.” — a ‘wise’ man
Lately, for some mysterious reason, I’ve been feeling really strongly about this theme. Maybe because it comes up in daily small talk so often that it and the following train of thought in my mind have been etched deep.
The inexorable circular progression of happiness->disappointment->sadness->anger->effort->happiness is a part life. People who tell you that you can escape from it are lying to you, possibly to take advantage of you, or because they’re so far removed from life that they’ve deluded themselves into believing it.
The only way to achieve something, anything, in life is to go through multiple, almost-endless cycles of the inexorable circular progression. I don’t base this argument on hard logic. It’s simple intuition based on the personal observation that any kind of effort requires a dedicated, concentrated trudge through this vortex of feelings. If you tell me that my conclusion is fallacious, I would love to hear about your technique to achieve things without having to fight feelings.
But as each day of my life passes by, this is one of the things that I’m most sure about.
So you can imagine my contempt and vexation when I hear any of the platitudes I mentioned at the beginning of this note. These people are just running away from the One definite thing that they possess: Life. The ability to make things happen. The ability to achieve something.
If you have no expectations from Life, what’s the use of being alive?
If Life is an illusion, a dream, a nightmare, why do you keep on living?
If the only way to escape suffering is to let go of worldly things, why is it that the people who really make a difference in peoples’ lives are the most attached to the world?