What 2 Tell Young Boys About Trump
Tim Barrus
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When that video and voice over were played that Friday night, when he bragged about “grabbing pussy” I remember exactly where I stood, what I was doing, what I thought. It was shocking and I could feel triggers being pulled across the U.S.

I froze as that tape and his giant hole of empty where he should have a Jungian Self and his pathetic lack of empathy, remorse or humanity washed over me in such a way that the moment became imbedded forever. Like the days Kennedy and Lennon were shot and the long night I was raped and beaten, that few minutes of infamy will be minutes I won’t ever forget.

Honestly, my 1st thought was, “how does one grab pussy? Has he ever been with a real woman?” Of course he hasn’t. But enough about me…

Interestingly, my 2nd thought was of your boys. For what then and, after reading this insightful and important piece, now seem obvious reasons.

For all the horror they have experienced, they are smart, smart and thoughtful boys and young men. I knew that they’d begin to wonder, to ask, to make the obvious associations. I worried they’d feel that free floating anxiety that accompanies such in one’s face reminders of one’s rape and abuse. And I knew that they’d ask if he raped boys. That thought, too, has crossed the mind of more than a few of us with pussies to grab. I imagine that more than a few boys and men were shown power by him shoving something into them. I feel often daily he is shoving something into me and everyone around me that I haven’t asked for and do not want.

I’m worried about all the kids, all the children and adolescents, who don’t have someone to listen and hear them, to tell them that it is OK to protect themselves and that protecting themselves is more important than embarrassing an adult by making a very loud spectacle. I’m worried that a man without morals, values and with a chaotic sense of Self who can’t think logically and who is so reliant on praise to feel centered is in the oval office, elected and supported by the very people who impeached another President for getting a blow job. Really?! I guess the morals and values they espoused so loudly were just a means to power, after all.

Yes, America is a very sick country. I could list the ways…I am very sad.

However, I am terribly grateful to you for being “real” with your foster sons. Truth isn’t an “alternative fact” and is hard to come by even during more normal times but it is essential now. “Not pretending” is the only way in which to create an environment in which your sons can heal. Bless you for providing it to them.

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