You’ve hit the nail on the head with regards to why people often don’t vote in their own self interest (and in doing so, answered the question the entire book “What’s wrong with Kansas?” is centered around). And I agree that it’s critically important to extend kindness and dignity to all. I don’t necessarily think the latter will fix the former, however. Self-identification is a primarily subconscious mental phenomenon. It takes work to get a handle on it. Hell, if you wanted to distill Buddhist philosophy through a western lens in one sentence, it could be “self-identification is a form of mental illness.” What we need to figure out, then, is how to suggest to the average Trump supporter that they need mental help. Without sounding like an a-hole like I just did.