Why Society is Accustomed to Dysfunctional Love

In a world where couples like Jody and Yvette are relationship goals, it’s apparent that unhealthy neediness and dependency exists in today’s version of “love.” Romantic relationships are now riddled with toxic traits of insecurity, disrespect, infidelity and clinginess usually stemming from issues in our childhoods. This has become our norm. The Internet is filled with insecure boyfriend/girlfriend memes and quotes with thousands of likes and shares. Where has this disastrous definition of “love” come from? Why is it laughable? Some of us laugh at how ridiculous the memes are but others laugh nervously because it is their truth. This type of insecurity and neediness has haunted them their entire lives and laughing briefly eases the pain.

In my own life and in my dealings with other people, I’ve noticed a trend of unhealthy behaviors linked to having overly aggressive or absent parents. This is not to say that every child with absent or overly aggressive parents take unhealthy routes in relationships. It is just to show us the importance of adult influence in our lives as children. Lack in childhood shows up in our adult lives and affects the choices that we make for the future. A lot of us are just grown children trying to break the habits of our parents and grandparents. It is a lot of work and sometimes we miss the mark, causing our deeply rooted issues to rise to the surface. It is now time to address and heal these issues of lack and how they give birth to dark emotions that lead to even darker actions.

Where do you find lack within yourself? Really look within and ask yourself these questions, “Where am I lacking?” “Why am I insecure?” “Which one of my childhood/adult connections affected my life the most?” Seek the answers to these questions and you will see issues that you’ve buried years ago, come up for healing. Its as if they’ve been suffocated deep within you and you’ve been carrying dead weight around for years. RELEASE those burderns, YOU HAVE THE STRENGTH to do so. Believe in yourself and get the healing you need within so that you can have healthy and long lasting external relationships. Peace and blessings to you all.

-Shauna ❤️

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