For the past 18 years, I have written and spoken passionately about the critical role that Men — Fathers — play in the lives of our children — our global village’s “heart and soul” and our bridge to the future. I have pointed out why Men are so important in our children’s lives; portrayed fathers as the co-architects of our “bridge to the future”; and explored the key challenges that Fathers throughout our global village struggle to resolve on a day-to-day basis as they quietly and unceremoniously go about the business of positively shaping the minds and souls of the global village’s “ Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, Fathers, Wives, and Mothers”. Mothers play an equally critical role in the lives of our children — the “heart and soul” of our global village. They also positively shape the minds and souls of the global village’s “Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, Fathers, Wives, and Mothers”. Like Fathers, Mothers also provide our children — our “heart and soul” — with valuable life lessons and critical tools for successfully navigating the world outside of their immediate environment — the “home”.
So, what did I learn from my Mother? Etiquette — the rules of engagement in social and business settings. How to think independently. She told me everything I needed to know about thinking independently with one sentence: “Learn how to think for yourself!” In retrospect, I think she was trying to make sure that I did not get caught up in “peer pressure”. Her insistence that I develop the ability to think independently, perform my own research, seek out and weigh the counsel of others, but yet rely on my judgment and my instincts when making a final decision continue to serve me well. She introduced me to classical music, cryptograms, and astrology, Some say that I am a good writer. Well, I have my Mom to thank for that. One of my first English home work assignments was to write sentences for a series of words. My mother reviewed my homework each night before I submitted it to my teachers at the elementary school I attended. She was not pleased with what she saw. Every sentence began with the same word. So what happened? My mother gave me great advice about sentence structure which I still implement today: “Never began every sentence with the same word. Put some variety in your writing. Make your sentences interesting.” And yes, I had to rewrite those sentences. But it is one of the many lessons my Mother taught which continues to help me move through life with confidence and ease.
By the way, she enjoys reading every issue of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R). Does she still check out my writing? Yes! And I would not have it any other way!