How the Power of Instead Can Work For You
It can change your life and here’s why
Instead is a powerful word. It means substitute or alternative. Using the power of instead is how we can change our lives. It changed my life. More than once.
And if it can work for me, it can work for you. I’ll show you how.
HOW THE POWER OF INSTEAD WORKS
The power of instead works like an interception.
- The action or fact of preventing someone or something from continuing to a destination. For example the interception of arms shipments
- The action or fact of receiving electronic transmissions before they reach the intended recipient. For example the clandestine interception of other people’s telephone calls
- In sports, an act of catching a pass made by an opposing player.
If you’re familiar with sports you know how it changes the direction of the game. It interrupts momentum. It has the power to change the outcome of the game.
This is the power of instead that can work for you.
HOW I DISCOVERED THIS
The power of instead first dawned on me by the grace of God. I used to suffer horrible disorienting confusion. If you’ve read my book Emerging With Wings you know this story.
Confusion and condemnation would arise, and I would get disoriented. To address this The Pursuer gave me His words to answer those accusing thoughts. I wrote them down in the specific order they were given. They interrupted the tendency to try to figure out the “who, what, when, where, why” of it all that would allow the negative process to continue.
The words I was given interrupted the negative process.
They intercepted me from destruction I was headed for. I said them instead of what I felt like saying. Instead of what I’d always said before.
I learned to call them instead words.
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HOW THIS WORKED FOR A FRIEND
I’d never heard anyone else use instead words, or call them that at least, until I had lunch with a friend. This lovely lady shared her powerful instead story with me.
She received the instead words from a friend of a friend after being diagnosed with stage four breast cancer.
It was a through a strange gift. He gave her a figurine of a saddle. She thought it was odd so asked him why a saddle?
When you have a bad day. Or when you feel like giving up. Look at this saddle and say to yourself I’m gonna saddle up and overcome.
This empowered her to push through. The will to live and fight another day is powerful. She went through chemo and radiation and had many bad days. She listened to his advice. She didn’t give up. She is now cancer free.
When you’re going through something hard or know you will, you can prepare instead words.
HOW THIS WORKED FOR MY SELF-ESTEEM
Many people suffer from low self-esteem. I was one of them. Changing how you see yourself can take a lot of work.
I’d done a lot of work to change and grow when I had an incident happen that caused me to come unglued. I never wanted to go through that emotional reaction again.
I needed help.
The whole story is in my book Emerging With Wings but the short story is God gave me instead words.
I called these instead words a silver bullet.
A specific short verbal response to say “instead” of what the emotions or fear wanted to say.
To find my silver bullet I needed to identify the root of my problem. I found it was a lie I believed about my value. The silver bullet forged was I Matter!
I’d say it in the face of the debilitating emotional pain. Sometimes with tears running down my face. But I’d say it. Over and over until it became a part of me. Because the silver bullet was truth.
Truth wins over lies. I matter and so do you!
WHY INSTEAD WORDS WORK
The power of instead words employs the power of faith. Faith is defined in the Bible as Now faith is the assurance of what we hope for and the certainty of what we do not see. (Source and other ways of saying it here.)
The Bible uses these words to describe what faith does: calls things into existence that do not exist. (Source and other ways of saying it here.)
This is what we do when we use the power of instead and it works.
Have you ever used instead words? Please share your story in the comments.
Originally published at www.daniellebernock.com on August 21, 2018.