I must say you have endured torture and trauma. I agree that my ‘privates’ should require my consent at any age. Doctors, nurses and health professionals are not immune to the psychos around. I always insisted on being with my kids and for myself I insisted on having someone in the room. Sometimes I was advised no, due to space and hygiene reasons re contamination, but there is no reason at all for a minor or woman to go through what you have gone through. Professional rape, just like lawyers who swindle clients and the system for their own gain, or politicians and presidents who can ‘get away’ with violating the rights of women. We are an oppressed gender, for the convenience of many.
I feel you on this. Keep safe. Big hugs.